Sunday, June 30, 2013

My journey to Cambodia.........

My earlier post on Cambodia was more about the place and its history. Keeping Mihir and other friends' comments in mind, I am attempting to write about my journey. I dont know how this will turn out. But let me try....

Its not a secret that I love travelling to new and different places. I would love to cover the whole globe in this lifetime. Atleast as much as humanly and financially possible. So each year i keep looking for opportunities to make this happen. I kept trying to ask friends and family to accompany me. Neither the timing nor the choice of destination was matching with anybody at all. It was a year since i went anywhere. Finally I got a solution to my predicament. I found through Facebook about WOW Club - Women On Wanderlust. It organises all women tours to popular and offbeat locations.

My friends and family were quite obviously shocked. Both by my decision to go alone and to go to Cambodia of all places. People asked me, 'Is it safe?' I frankly hadn't researched enough. I was rash enough to tell them, 'If the organisers had managed to put together a tour and people had signed up for it, I am sure it will be safe'. People asked me, 'How will you go alone?'. This I wasnt sure of myself. I didnt know a soul on that trip. I was skeptical for a while. I spoke to a friend's friend who had travelled with them earlier. She assured me that the tour organisation part was handled well. And then i thought, 'Its a week. The worst that can happen is I wont connect with my fellow travellers. How lonely can I get in a week. I can live with that. Plus what other choices do I have anyway. Not going anywhere was not an option'.

So thats how I set out. When I met my group at the airport, I realised most of them were from the older generation. My room-mate was an Indian, born and brought up in America. When I entered the flight, doubts started creeping in of whether I had made the right decision. But now there was only one way forward. I slept off and we had a long stopover at bangkok airport. Thats when the introductions began.We were 14 of us with an interesting mix of people.The oldest being 78 and me being the youngest. The aunties were well travelled and the girls my age were as travel crazy as I was. Couple of them had taken a sabbatical from work to travel and see the world. I instantly started connecting with them coz we had a common interest. TRAVELLING. Each began sharing interesting anecdotes and snippets from their travel. Thus began our journey.

We started our trip with directly hitting the markets even before we reached our hotel. I am sure people will just sigh and say 'Ladies and their shopping'. But we had reached in the evening and site seeing began the next day. So of course, we didnt want to waste Day 1. Shopping, good food and rest ended Day 1. My room-mate and me managed to work out a way so that we could efficiently live together without getting in each other's way for the next few days.

Day 2 was sightseeing at Phnom Penh, the capital. Here we got to know about Cambodia and its recent history which I had elaborated in my earlier post. All the atrocities, pain and suffering made me realise, how much i should really value my life, freedom and good fortune. Discussing this and other things had brought the group closer. We went night shopping again. And since I was the youngest, all the aunties actually doted on me. I had fun since all of them wanted me to try on something, clothes, trinkets, sling bags etc. Plus i had to help them with buying stuff for their daughters etc. My roomie and me actually hit it off that day too. We talked to each other for hours together at night and realised that even though we were brought up on two different continents, its not really difficult to become friends.

Day 3, we travelled to Siem Reap to the Angkor temple complex. Enroute we saw Spider village, Carving village. They do fry and eat spiders, tarantulas, crickets etc. None of us of course had the nerve to try any of that. The bus ride actually gives you a feel of rural India. The poverty, roads, hanging electric wires, political party posters. Only when you see the people, do u actually feel that you are in some other country. Evening was spent boating in Tonle Sap lake which had numerous crocodiles in it. Thankfully, we didnt have any of them jump at us on the boat. In the middle of the lake, they had floating restaurants, where we managed to see a few crocs. More shopping, good food and sleep followed.

Day 4 and Day 5, we spent in the Angkor wat, Angkor Thom temple complex. As mentioned in my earlier post, these are 11th century Hindu templex complexes with amazing carvings and architecture from Ramayana, Mahabharata etc. This part cannot be described in a blog post. No words can justify the beauty and detailing of the carvings. One can only experience it firsthand.

Foreigners flock to see this part of Cambodia. Where there is tourism, shopping cannot be left far behind. Cambodian silk and cotton garments, silver articles are exported even to the West. Of course, being ladies we went crazy too. Clothes, bags, wooden and stone carvings, paintings, gift items, souvenirs, accessories, tablecloths, runners, cushion covers, pirated DVDs of movies, sitcoms, lonely planet books etc etc. Siem Reap has a night market. So shop, shop, shop till you drop. I also had the experience of Fish spa, wherein you put your feet in a tank full of fish and the fish peck at the dead cells of your feet. My feet felt great after the walking of the past few days. Also, it was really surprising but Cambodia felt really safe even late in the night. The locals are really sweet and caring.

Day 6, we woke up at 4 a.m to watch the sunrise at the backdrop of Angkor Wat. This was a magical moment. But again, my poor old camera couldn't capture the real glory which my eyes had the good fortune of witnessing. Nevertheless, adding a picture here.

















We had a mix of Chinese and Cambodian food all six days. The food was just amazing. Special mention of 1 dish called Fish Amok which i wouldn't have minded eating entire week there. God knows if I can find it here and that too in their style.

In this entire week, I realised my earlier doubts had been completely quashed. It was actually easy for me to get along with these complete strangers. These women had the same spirit that I had, to go and see the world, come what may. Also, I was highly impressed by the spirit portrayed by everybody. There was so much walking, climbing to do. Despite their age, none of them even remotely complained of any discomfort.Even after a whole day of sight-seeing, they were as enthusiastic about shopping at night as us.

My biggest learning was that the more we travel, the more people we meet, our perspectives widen. How we see the world and how it affects our thinking and actions changes for the positive. Every experience teaches us more and more. Also, for me, it was a confidence building experience. I can now fulfill my dream without having to wait for anyone. This time, I went with a group. Next time, I can go alone maybe. Everybody has their own passions and priorities. We cannot expect these and the timing to match with ours every time. Its time we led our life exactly as we want, to get a deeper satisfaction for ourselves. Cheers to all the wonderful women on my tour and on other tours who have the will and confidence to travel without their husbands, family, friends.

















If anybody lasted through this post, I am grateful and obliged. Ciao and take care....

Saturday, June 22, 2013

What????? Cambodia??????

When i told my friends and colleagues, I am going to Cambodia for a holiday, to say people were shocked would be an understatement. That too, alone with a group in which i knew nobody. Even though the truth is, i ended up going there not bcoz of an informed choice i made but more due to reshuffling of my holiday dates. But it turned out to be a great experience after all coz not only did i learn about Cambodia but i found a few things about myself.

I didnt know much about Cambodia before going there. Just to give you a brief, it is among the poorest nations of today. A monster named polpot, who himself was a foreign educated individual, took over the reins from 1975 to 1979 and turned their society upside down. Having come across communist philosophies, he wanted to turn the country into an agrarian and labour oriented society. All people who differed with him were killed brutally and mercilessly. Schools were closed and turned into torture chambers. Banks, universities, hospitals were destroyed. Monetary system was abolished. Military, educated people were killed so that they couldnt protest against him. Their king ran and hid in China. Older generation got killed so that they wouldnt have problems accepting his way of thinking. Youth got killed so that they couldnt take their revenge. The ones who lived were sent to the farms to toil away. Starvation, diseases added to their apathy. More than 25-30 lakh people lost their lives out of 80-90 lakh people. One third of the population wiped out. Mass graves of skeletons are still being found till date (more than 20,000). So nobody really knows the actual number of deaths. Our guide told us, there isnt a single family which has all its members alive. You can google pol pot or khmer rouge to know more.

Anyway, in 1979, with Vietnam's help, they finally managed to topple him over. Vietnam ruled them for the next 10 years. Vietnam, having their own problems, the situation didnt improve. But i guess the only saving grace was it didnt deteriorate further. Mr monster and his party still kept trying to regain control and kept guerilla warfare on. Only after his death in 1998, have Cambodians been able to breathe peacefully. Their king came back and past 12-15 years there has thankfully been an effort at revival.

Anyway my point about this history lesson is how much we take our freedom, life for granted!!!! Freedom to walk on the roads, freedom to voice our opinions, freedom to carry out our respective professions, to breathe without the fear of death looming over. What did the ordinary citizens of Cambodia do wrong apart from having the bad fate of being born in that country. When we agonise over our problems at work, at studies, at relationships, in life, shouldn't we just stop and count our blessings. We have a life which we can call our own and only we can decide its course.

I need to make a special mention of all the people i met there. Inspite of all the pain and suffering they have been through, they still smile and do not try to earn by evoking in you a sense of pity. They earn their living with dignity and do not expect any charity. They have built genocide museums etc to show you what they have been through but i didnt feel like they were marketing their grief. Tourism now is their biggest source of revenue. Cambodia is the 4th most popular global travel destination. Though its not because of this part of their history.

Angkor temple complex is the reason tourists are flocking to Cambodia. Angkor wat, angkor thom etc are 11th century temples with beautiful carvings. Surprisingly these are hindu temples with entire stories of ramayana, mahabharata carved across the walls of the complex. Even though, its century old, the complex is just out of this world. I realised how low my mythology knowledge was. The guides there knew more about hindu mythology than me. Would have loved to spend more time there to learn. Highlight was watching the sunrise at Angkor wat. It was a moment which will be etched in my memory forever.

I thouroughly enjoyed the experience. As for my learning. I was skeptical about doing a trip alone. I always thought you need friends, family to go on a vacation. But i realised thats nor necessary. A truly satifying experience can be felt even without anybody to share it with. Also the added bonus was, i got to make new friends along the journey who were as interested to explore the world as i was. I look forward to many more enriching experiences.

Ciao and cheers to anybody who spent time reading through this.....

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Why.......

Why does it happen …….


1. Just when you are about to reach the finishing line, you realise that you have to begin again.
2. Just when happiness seems so close that you can touch it, the bubble bursts.
3. Just when you have climbed a flight of stairs and reached a pedestal, something has to happen that gets you down to Square 1 with a thud.
4. When it matters the most and you really want something to happen, that doesn’t happen.
5. When you wish something shouldn’t happen, that thing happens first.


Sounds similar to Murphy’s Laws……


What was Murphy thinking when he wrote his laws. What circumstances did he face, which led him to his laws.


Am I treading on Murphy’s path…..
Should I just stop thinking of finishing lines and topmost pedestal……
Should I just keep walking without thinking about the fruits ahead…..
But if there is no goal in life, what is the purpose of walking…..
Should I really believe the philosophy “Karm karo, Phal ki chinta mat karo” in today’s world…….


Murphy can you help me???????

Sunday, August 31, 2008

I loved Chennai .......

Hey back after a long time.....

Had been to chennai for 15 days.And i loved it there.
The city was very much like Mumbai in a few respects. But it still had a distinct flavour to it.

Similarities with mumbai like traffic jams at peak hours,well-connected bus service,auto rickshaws available at every nook and corner.

The city doesn't sleep after 7 unlike some cities i have been to.I could move around at 9-9.30 alone in a rickshaw. Didnt feel out of place for a moment.At one point of time, 2 of us ladies were on the street at 11-11.30 in the night due to an emergency.And it was not bad at all.People on the street didnt look at us as if we had done a direct landing from Planet Venus.Nor did they look at us giving looks of 'lets eat them up'. So in 1 sense it felt safe.

Chennai was much cleaner than aamchi mumbai.Also more organised in terms of traffic management.Though jams hote hain but not the 'not-moving' types. No city can beat mumbai in those.Also no wall of the city was left empty.They either had paintings of political leaders or film personalities.They also have full lighted portraits of goddesses and rajnikant etc. Cool ones.And statues all over the place.Best part is, name of the person is written in tamil.

Coming to tamil. The localites understand only tamil.So as soon as u say "Tamil no" which means u dont know tamil, u turn into deaf and dumb communicating only through actions.If u r lucky, the autowala might understand few bits and pieces of english.It was funny talking to an autowala or shopkeeper in english though.

But But But..... If u want to experience mumbai in chennai, go to a place called T nagar on a holiday in the evening. Atleast 1 crore people inside each of the stores.Clothing, jewellery etc.I felt claustrophobic at that time.

Even when it was pouring cats and dogs in the western and central parts of India to the extent of floods everywhere, it was completely dry in chennai. In the 15 days i stayed there, it just rained once, that too just a small shower.Weather was very hot and humid.But thankfully on the day we had been sightseeing around chennai, it was cloudy.So we didnt have the sun glaring at us.

We had been to a beach named besant nagar on a weekday evening.It was only there that i could get my photo clicked without anybody else in the frame.Only me and the sea.Meaning, the beach wasnt crowded like the way it is here.Also this beach was extremely clean.Sand was so soft as if u were walking on a combination of satin-silk and wool.

My friend kept saying she wanted to see the sunset.And i kept telling her she couldnt do that in chennai.Atleast not in the waters.She didnt believe me.Most people think sunset has to be seen in the waters. But the point is Chennai is on the coast of Bay of Bengal which is towards the east.So u can see sunrise and not sunset in the waters. We are so used to the beaches in Mumbai, Goa, Kerala, that this technicality slips our mind.

Coming back to chennai, people there are very helpful.One of my friends was getting late to go somewhere and thats y was running towards the area.A guy on a bike stopped and asked him where he was going.He actually dropped him at the place he wanted to go.Who would do that in mumbai.Also people there do not believe in taking risks. They r straightforward people, doing their work, watching rajnikant movies and leading a clean life.

Got an opportunity to watch classic tamil movie Sivaji.Ahhh what stunts, i must say.How many getups he changed in a 3 hour movie. Above the age of 50 and romancing a petite 25 year old.Didnt really understand a word they said, but i had so much fun.Even a hera pheri or andaz apna apna or Angoor havent made me laugh as i laughed in Sivaji.Three cheers to Rajnikant.

Things of Interest -
Away from Chennai - Pondicherry,Tirupati,Mahabalipuram,Kancheepuram,Rameshwaram

In Chennai - Marina Beach,Besant Nagar Beach,Shopping in T nagar (Silk sarees in Nalli and gold jewellery),Murugan Idli for authentic south Indian food (not to forget oil pudi),Chettinadu Chicken,Spencer Mall(Beware u can get lost inside),Mysore pa from Krishna Sweets, Theme Park on way to Mahabalipuram, TTDC conducted Boating with awesome colour of water,1-2 pubs i didnt get a chance to go to.

All in all, it was fun trip.Paid holiday from my office as gift.I think Tamil Nadu Government ought to hire me as the marketing manager or tourism development minister for chennai.What say people........

Friday, July 25, 2008

Love at first sight !!!!!!!!!!

Recently had been to a movie......
Guy looks at the gal while passing her in a building.....
Falls for her instantly......
Later meets her at a trip and proposes marriage to her.....
She is surprised and flattered and doesnt answer.....
For a long time, he is after her and she doesnt answer......
After a long time of being friends, she says she is fine wid the proposal.....
But.................
She is a single unwed mother.......
Now what.........
If love is true, he wouldnt mind.......
But his love was on seeing her once, he cannot accept her past.......
Is this love at first sight real and for any good??????

Thought about this for a long time. Have seen lots of couples.College se lekar, abhi tak.Each person (including me), i feel has a mental checklist for the type of person, he/she is looking for.Different people have different priorities.Some go for looks, some status, some family background, some education,some money, some nature of person.I mean the weightage for all these points differs from person to person.But all these basic points are there in every person's mind.Each person they meet is analysed against this mental checklist.Anybody satisfying this image is selected.

If this person is found on our own, it becomes love marriage.If this person meets us because our family has made us meet him, it becomes arranged marriage.

I dont think there is anything as love at first sight unless our only priority is looks.How would one know the nature and compatibilty of any person with us without spending a second with that person.......

Interesting sms i received "Love is a constant battle between the heart and mind.True love is when they agree"

Sunday, July 6, 2008

Kabhi Kabhi aditi zindagi........

My favourite song and i wana immortalise it.Probably by writing it on my blog. I am completely in love with each and every word and the guitar is just amazing.

Kabhi Kabhi aditi zindagi mein yuhi koi apna lagta hai
Kabhi kabhi aditi woh bichhad jaye toh ek sapna lagta hai
Aise mein koi kaise in aansuion ko behne se roke
Aur kaise koi soch de everthing's gonna be ok

Kabhi kabhi toh lage zindagi mein rahi na khushi aur na mazza
Kabhi Kabhi toh lage har din mushkil aur har pal ek sazza
Aise mein koi kaise muskurae, kaise has de khush hoke
Aur kaise koi soch de everthing's gonna be ok

Soch zara jaaneja tujhko hum kitna chahte hain
Rote hain hum bhi agar teri aankhon mein aansu aate hai
Gaana toh aata nahi hai magar phir bhi hum gaate hain
Ki aditi maan kabhi jab saare jahaan mein andhera hota hai
Lekin raat ke baad hi toh savera hota hai

Kabhi Kabhi aditi zindagi mein yuhi koi apna lagta hai
Kabhi kabhi aditi woh bichhad jaye toh ek sapna lagta hai
Ae aditi has de has de has de has de has de has de tu zara
Nahi toh bas thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda muskura

Tu khush hai toh lage ki jahaan mein chhayi hai khushi
Suraj nikle badalon se aur baaten zindagi
Sun toh zara madhosh hawa tujhse kehne lagi
Ki aditi woh jo bichhadte hain ek na ek din phir mil jaate hain
Aditi Jaane tu ya jaane na phool phir khil jaate hain

Kabhi Kabhi aditi zindagi mein yuhi koi apna lagta hai
Kabhi kabhi aditi woh bichhad jaye toh ek sapna lagta hai
Ae aditi has de has de has de has de has de has de tu zara
Nahi toh bas thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda muskura

Ae aditi has de has de has de has de has de has de tu zara
Nahi toh bas thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda muskura

Ae aditi has de has de has de has de has de has de tu zara
Nahi toh bas thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda muskura

Ae aditi has de has de has de has de has de has de tu zara
Nahi toh bas thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda muskura

Ae aditi has de has de has de has de has de has de tu zara
Nahi toh bas thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda thoda muskura

Sunday, June 29, 2008

Interesting lines i read and heard......

A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini
" Like a compass needle that points north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman"

Above Average by Amitabha Bagchi
"Loneliness is a disease whose symptoms grow worse at night"

Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
"It is a universally acknowledged truth that a single man in possesion of a large fortune must be in want of a wife"

Tera Chehra by Jagjit Singh
"Aag ka kya hai, pal do pal mein lagti hain
Bhujte bhujte ek zamaana lagta hai

Sach toh yeh hai, Phool ka dil bhi chhalni hai
Hasta chehra ek bahana lagta hai"